Finally Today - going on holiday with naughtey children i need tips please answer this question?

going on holiday with naughtey children i need tips please answer this question?

we are going on holiday in the summer to disneyland paris my kids arenown to act out alot what can i do to make the holiday a stress free sucsess they are 3 girls aged 2 3 and 5 i have got a good bed time routine ready so i am going to keep that the same times when we get there but i need your help and tips on disipline and every thing to make it enjoyable 2 yr old = tantruming night mare=terrible 2s 3yr old=kicking spitting and screming tantrums moaner 5yr old=ring leader tell tail swering tantrums thanks:) is all booked all ready if you say disipline explain what kind

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Try bringing a little discipline in to their lives.
Holy moly, I wouldn't take them on a vacation until they can behave.
either send them on their own, or go without them, best advise I can give You could trying calling supernan, she might go with you!
Wait til they're older to take them to Disney.
wow, I'd leave 'em all behind, unless they can behave..............wonder what your like.!!
In all seriousness, if your kids are so bad why would pamper them by taking them to Disney ? do they deserve it. I can't understand it. or try duct tape
You're not doing a very good job there, are you?
Discipline them NOW or your life will be hell and you will be calling in Super Nanny. Teachers must really love parents like you. Get a grip and act now. You are the boss, not them and the quicker you act ,the quicker you will enjoy life and your holidays.
egnore bad behaviour and really praise good dont say if you naughty you wont get say because your good you will have stay away from negative kids like any attention and bad is better than none dont make threats like you are going to bed early tonight there is no reason to behave then for the rest of the day good luck
I would not even take them, cancel the Holiday until they are old enough to understand that this is a special trip and enjoy it even more. It sounds as if you have a right coven there. The 5 year old needs a sound mouth washing if she is swearing now! Discipline and Control are paramount at this age!
Unless you have discipline at home you stand no chance on holiday when the children are excited. Start now!! There have been a lot of `nanny` programmes on the TV mostly giving good advice. You need to have boundaries that you give to the children and consequences if they don`t adhere to them. Stay calm when they misbehave and carry out the consequence. You must be consistent and it won`t be easy, but you can change their behaviour in a matter of weeks.
I would not take them they don't deserve it
are you going on holiday,or to some kind of disciplinarian camp,cmon they are only kids.enjoy the holiday,they are only young once.
i have been to disney paris with my 3 girls 1,3 and 5 and my middle child can throw some awful tantrums but believe me they won't really have time to have tantrums. just avoid going into all the shops cos my children wanted a toy in each shop and all the shops have pretty much the same thing. i bought my children lanyards and at the end of each day if they were good i bought them a pin, also they can trade pins with cast members at disney, but we met all the characters and they loved it even when we queued for the disney princesses for over an hour. they were so excited they forgot about being naughty. if you are not taking a pushchair you can hire them in the parks. also i told my children that Mickey, minnie, chicken little etc only wanted to meet them if they were good. make sure you go to the morning parade in the Studio park. not many people go to this as its quite early, but all the characters come over to you at the end of this parade. the parade in the main disney park gets really busy so get your spot in Main Street at around 3.15pm-3.30pm, parade starts at 4pm the afternoon parade in the studios park is good as well this park is just not as busy. they really will be having too good a time to make a fuss, and enjoy it is fun but hetic, we have been twice and the last time we stayed for 6 days which was a bit too long for us but not for the kids. hope this helps, if you want to know anything else leave a note here for me and i will try and answer it for you. i also stick to what i say so if you say no to something don't go back on that even if they do start having tantrums otherwise they will know that eventually you will give in and the tantrums will get worse. and keep to their bedtime like you said and have dinner at about the same time you normally would, kids like routine and when they are tired or hungry their behaviour can get worse. good luck
Do these kids really deserve to go to Disney land ? If you let the kid think that bad behavior will get rewarded then it'll be so much harder to get them to act right. Just make sure that you show them who is boss, please do not let those kids walk all over you, If they start acting out you tell them to stop ONE time, no more than that. Tell them what will happen if they don't stop and then back up what you say. Don't give empty threats. It's gonna take a while, especially with that five year old and three year old but stick with it, it will make you life so much easier if you don't have to worry about your kids acting up all the time. Good luck honey
Well as it's booked you will be going tell them before you go out to behave if they don't smile ask them what they would like to go on next take them to it and say Oh that's a shame you can't go on it cause you have been naughty and take them somewhere quiet that they don't like back to the room, you might have to do it twice only I think they will get the message. I can't understand why a 5 year old would swear unless she hears it, mine didn't or my grandchildren and they are 4 and 6 they know it's wrong.
You're not doing them or yourself any favors by not disiplining them and believe me if they are like that now there has been no didipline in that household. You don't have to hit a child but there must be rules and consistancy. I don't think you have time before your holiday to teach them so I say leave them home or cancel your trip.
Ok, I'm not going to put you down I have a boy 5, girl 3, and a girl 2. so i know the boat your in. you need to buckle down. I seriously mean for you to put on your rambo bandana and load your guns. teach them cause and effect. It is hard to stay on top of them. if a fight breaks out amongt them 3 separate spots for time out stay in the room with them and make them apologize. your 5 yr old is old enough to understand if you do this u lose this. and stick to it. the work is in your hands talk with your husband lay down the law and stay to it. if you need more specific I will be more than happy to help. ironically enough mine are the same ages and pretty well behaved in public. lots and lots of praise when they do something right. Hugs and kisses and praise. its going to be hard for you I promise that much!! good luck email me if need be mom010405@yahoo.com or im me. I am more than will to help out!
Time outs! And start NOW. Every time ANY of them do anything you don't like, sit them down in a quiet portion of the house and explain that "we do NOT do that" (what ever it is) and then they sit there for one minute per year of age. This method is effective because kids do NOT want to sit still, and they do NOT like to be reprimanded for behavioral deficiencies; and it does not involve anger (never show you're angry for their behavior...they know its a trigger for you). And it does not resort to spankings. It will take a LOT of effort on your part and you have to be absolutely consistent, but I'm betting that you're going to see some results within the next 30-45 days. So: * be consistant...every infraction receives a time out...even if they're in the chair more than they're out of it. * do not raise your voice. State the reason they're being punished, sit them down and ignore the fits. If they throw further fits, tack on time. The WILL get it. *NEVER give in. I don't care if you're in a store, a restaurant, a friend's house, or whatever. Time outs can be done ANYWHERE without any social ramifications (like some people don't like spankings, yelling, etc). PS - time outs in bedrooms don't work. They need a place where there are NO distractions...they need to think about what they've done. No TV, books, friends, etc.
You need to stay in two different rooms and divide tasks among you and your husband. He can be responsible one, but let him take the one that's hard to handle. You can stay in another room with other 2 children, that's what I'll do with mine.
start off right you no we are going to disney land if your naughtey i can always cancel the holiday and we will spend the holidays at home then set up a new set of strict rules write them out and display them make a chore chart and sticker chart for all 3 girls a sticker for good behaviour and a big black cross for being naughtey a certain amount of sticker = new toy somthing from the pound shop if they dont have that number of stickers dont feel guilty by toys for the good girls but not the naughtey ones they will soon learn right out a list of consiquences for certain behaviour if they swear then that is an imediate smack bottem if they spit pinch punch that is an imediate trip to the naughtey corner and if it hapens again a smack bottem if they are having paddys then warn then time out untill they stop you can do this in public to on a bench in a trolly ect then take all your behaviour posters on holiday to. they soon learn ive been there and i still have to use my behaviour system now they no the rules and consequences so that is that good luck
I admire you for taking on a European vacation with three small children. I would sit down with your oldest child have a discussion about what's going to happen on your trip. If you share with her your concerns (in a manner that she can understand), you can make her a part of the solution. Appeal to her being the oldest to help make a good impression on her younger sisters. I would bring along some surprise treats (stickers, crayons, any small toys they would like) and use them as rewards. Reward ANY good behavior to start with... get them into the game. Oh, you sat in your seat without being told to - here's a sticker... you shared your doll - etc. Catch them being good. Try not to overschedule your days. It may be tempting but remember the little ones have limits. I have always traveled with my children and I have found that getting them in on the planning has worked for everything from a trip to the grocery to a cross country road trip with 3 kids to a trip to Italy. As far as tantrums, I have found with my kids that they have tantrums because they know they'll get what they want. If you can start before your trip by not giving into the tantrum, it will help you in the long run. I know that it's difficult but you'll be thankful in the end. I use a quiet voice and tell my son that I will listen to him when he stops crying, yelling, kicking or whatever it is he's doing. Good luck and Bon Voyage!!
Remember the rules of the supernanny. Reward good behaviour and punish bad. If they do something good or say something nice compliment them and make sure you tell them how appreciative you are of them being good. Mabybe give them a little treat for desert at the end of the day. Even if they do something bad after they have done good still tell them that you are happy at them at how they behaved at that certain time. Youll be suprised at their response. They will know that you love them no matter what they do and if they get a happy response from you chances are they will slowly learn that behaving in a good manner will have its rewards. Remember to pay attention to their needs. They may be only children and may seem to us that they dont know what their talking about, but to them its important to have their views and opinions listened to. It teaches them respect and it also teaches them that they can get what they want with good communication and not yelling. If you refuse them something explain to them the reason as to why you are. Children dont understand the line between action and consequence like we do so it needs to be explained, and in a lot of times more than once. Try not to yell back because anger feeds on anger. If your mad they will tend to play up more coz they know they are getting a reaction out of you, but theyre going about it in the wrong way. Always try to maintain a calm voice even if their screaming. Slowly they will tone their voice down. I hope this helps you. Enjoy your holiday!!
Hi, Distraction!! they r going to be in a place where the world is there oyster, dreams come true. Try not to scold them, and try not to reign them in, let them be theirselves, dont say no to. them, tell them ur all going to have fun and be a family and see them for al they r miricles that u made. Laugh and smile and be happy. go with the frame of mind that they r good not naughty, and i will assure u they and u will be less stressed! b4 u go i would out in firm boundaries and consequences to there actions, naughty step, chair, or bedroom, for every minute of there lives eg 3 yr old would be 3 mins 5 yr old would be 5 mins, in this time u should ignore them and only talk yto them when the time is up, the 2 yr old i would just leave to tantrum and ignore it as they do it for attention but after all the punishments make sure u tell ur kids u love them and always will but u dont like the behaviour they were showing. Try avoiding the words 'No', 'bad' and 'Naughty'. Make sure u have routine in there lives like a specified breakfast lunch and tea also bedtime, bath, teeth brushing story then bed, kids thrive in a well constructed live. Watch wot u feed them as processed foods and sweets can make them worse. Always praise the good stuff over exagerrate it and they will try there hardest to keep the good points coming from u! Finally give them each one on one time each day even if it 15mins so thats there time with u with no interuptions! read play go for a walk sing but make it fun and let them know its for them only!! Enjoy them there a blessing! Rx
I would show them how much fun it woudl be, but tell them thtat they don't allow misbehaving children int he park and that until they leanr some manners Mickey and Minnie won't allow them in.
Disipline has to happen all the time, from the sounds of it, that is lacking all the time....you can't expect a child to change at the drop of a hat for this trip.....Start bed times now, start to disipline now.....the magic of Disney won't make that happen over night.....it has to start from the beginning, and if it didn't it can take weeks to get a kid to calm down age change their behavior.
I am a parent and I would not take these kids to a fast food joint, never mind on holiday. There's almost no way that you can make this enjoyable for yourselves, and it's just plain wrong to inflict this type of behavior on others. You need to stop reinforcing the bad behavior. If they are throwing tantrums, it is because this has worked for them before. The next time one of them has a tantrum, take them to a quiet corner of the room, and except for making sure that they don't hurt themselves, ignore the behavior until it stops. If they manage to work themselves up to the point where they are completely out of control, by all means hug them and try to calm them, but do not give in on the original issue. You need strategies that will work for you. Talk to someone with child development experience, like a pre-school teacher and have them recommend some books. Your oldest now has 5 years of experience in getting her own way, and she is setting a great example for the other two.
At those ages they are really a tad young to really enjoy the full experience. Are you going for them or for you? You really need to get a handle on them soon, before you know it they will be a lot older and walking all over you. Time-outs Take their favorite toys away one at a time when they mis-behave until they stop. Encourage good behavior by ignoring bad and praising good behavior. The more you pay attention to bad behavior, they will react that way.
First of all, I think your children will be totally awed and surprised when they enter Disneyland because of the kid-friendly environment-it will make it incredibly fun just being there and taking in all the sights. So you may have a few hours that are stress free just because of that! :) Noone on here knows your children except what little bit you have written about them on your post. You probably have 3 wonderful little girls that just have their moments of acting up like everyone else's children do! I have 6 children--ranging in age from 22 to 2 years old!!! I know how my 2 yr old can have a complete meltdown if he does not get his own way about something, but he can also be a wonderful sharer and helper and is a lot of fun to be around for the most part. My 6 yr old is pretty well behaved and loves playing with my 2 yr old so that's a big help, but there are times when they are both fussing and bothering each other. I would definitely either bring a stroller or rent one in the park. You can leave them by the gate of each ride and we have never had a problem with one getting stolen. It will totally help to have your 2 yr old in a stroller--that will bring a little bit of control and if she gets tired, she can just take a nap as well. If you have a double stroller-even better so your 3 yr old can share it as well. I think I would explain to your 5 yr old that she needs to be your helper on this trip with her 2 little sisters---tell her how much you need her help to make it a special time and also give her some rules she needs to follow. Maybe she could help push the stroller--my 6 yr old loves to do that. But definitely let there be consequences for bad behavior--whether it is a time out or missing out on her favorite ride or whatever. If there are no consequences for kicking, screaming and swearing, then they know that they can get by with it because you are not going to do anything about it. So--they are really behaving the way that you have non-verbally given them the permission to behave. The bottom line is that you will need to have some control over your children and also feel confident that they will listen to you and obey you while you are there. I think most people on here think that if you don't have any control and they are not disciplined and they are free to misbehave with no consequences before they go---it will make it much worse being there and trying to maintain any kind of discipline in that environment. It's just hard to say---there is not just one easy answer since we cannot see how your kids interact on a daily basis. It's hard to say what will make it more enjoyable. I do think you are doing good keeping the same bed time routine and schedule---that will give them a sense of consistency which is very important especially since you are travelling to another country, but just be flexible because you will be in a different time zone and flying always does tend to throw kids off schedule and routine--at least for a few days anyway. I just want to say that I hope you have an awesome time. I'm actually jealous and wish it was me and my family going to Disneyland Paris! We have been to Disneyland and Disneyworld, but going to another country would be twice the fun. :)
Right now, plan an agenda. Schedule the days and keep them active. Don't let them get too tired or hungry. Write out a set of rules and each day remind them what the rules are. What I would do is the first time someone has a tantrum, everybody has to go back to the hotel room. They won't want to go to the room, the room is boring. Or, the one having the tantrum has to sit with you on a bench while the other two get to have fun. I think you will only have trouble the first day. Good luck and hope you have fun.
consistent discipline, time outs, if they do not behave they cannot do any of the fun stuff, one time not being able to will be all it will take if you follow thru, start watching super nanny, she has great suggestions
IVE GOT GUYS SORT OF LIKE THESE 3-KNOW IT ALL 6-LIKE A TEENAGER 10 MONTHS-WELL NEED I SAY MORE WELL GOOD LUCK AND IF YOU ARE RELAXED THEN THEY WILL BE TRUST IT WORKS EVERYTIME
dont give in to your children there just going though a normal life when they behave naughty put then on a chair or stairs and tell them when they have finished to give you a hug and say sorry and when they do praze them lots they will learn sooner or later
Discipline should have been started LONG before the tantrums, or the kicking spitting and screaming and tantrums and tantrums. If it were me...there would be no trip since these children have obviously NOT been disciplined. When I say "No" I mean no and I don't give in to tantrums, kicking, spitting screaming, swearing, or moaning. But discipline starts around age one. By not giving in to demands. When mine started with tantrums she went to time out. I ignored the ploys, the biting of herself, the banging her head on any hard surface, the throwing herself to the ground so hard she would bounce and the holding of the breath. If she screamed I would put her in her bedroom and I would grab my headphones. At 5 if she was swearing I would have figured out where it was LEARNED from and had eliminated that source of education. Swearing is not a natural occurance in children and has to be LEARNED from some source such as at home or from relatives, television, movies etc. But since nothing has been done at this point I would not embarass myself nor would I want a vacation ruined by these undisciplined brats....instead I would be investing the money in some parenting classes for myself because obviously they are despearately needed.