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Major boyfriend/Ex problem ! Please hear me out [Read whole story] & give me advice!?

Well me and this boy been going out for 2 years. we shared the most memories and we truly loved each other. Last summer we went on vacation we walked the beach at night, layed under the stars, and it wa amazing. were only 16 tho hes bout to b 18. well When skool started again back in september i kind of got sick of him; and i broke up with him , and he seemed to be heartbroken but iwas fine being single etc. it was alright. well i got a bf like in january and my Ex of the 2 yrs messaged me in late february saying he misses me and etc. i ignored him cuz i was with this new guy. but i broke up with this new guy because things started hitting me that nothing wil lever compare to Alex [my ex] i loved him the most . he was the best. period. so i started messaging alex, but begining of march he got a new girlfriend. [funny cuz late february he still wanted me back] but yeah his girlfriend didnt even let him answer she told me to back away he doesnt want me back he never wants to hear from me. n it got me sad; i cried for days and i came to my sences im nothing without him. but i guess karma is really a big bitch. and now alex is spreading all these rumors that i cheated on him im a dirty hore wit aids... as much shyt he talks i cant seem to hate him. on facebook i been giving him the hints how i want him in my statuses that im sad etc. and his gf told me to stop being obsessed and desperate. like how can she tell me that i been with him 2 yrs and her only 2 months. idk what to do. should i stay single? i ahte the single life really. will he come back to me? shes not attractive either but i wont brag im quite cute i mean blonde hair blue eyes decen body. but she is chunky and brown hair not so great. idk they seem to love each other . what do you think ? please help. should i act happy n pretend to enjoy my single life. or should i keep saying im sad and givin him hints making it obvious. idk what to do. and summer is coming up. we were sopose to go n vacation =p i cant talk to him now though. soo. ?

Public Comments

1. Stay single for now, because he is gonna get tired of her bossing him around and he's going to realize how much he misses you.
2. Even through the rumors he spread, you still think he's great? And think about it - he's not standing against his girlfriend for you, he's letting his girlfriend fight his battles. There are better men out there, trust me. You may not realize it now, because you're lonely and miss him and summer's coming up and you don't want to feel like a lonely loser, but trust me, you'll meet new people and make new friends. I broke up with my boyfriend of three years, and we were very very serious about each other. We wanted to get married and everything, but things just didn't end up working out. The break-up was so so so tough, and we dated for a little while after, but it just did not work. There is a reason why break-ups happen. Move on girlfriend! You can do it :)
3. you should try to talk to ur ex when his new gf isn't around. when you do get that chance let him know what's up & that you want him to be in your life . also let him know what he did with the rumors wasn't cool no matter how mad he was btw the new girl need to stay in her place bc he was just trying 2 get back with you right b4 she came to the picture.
4. 1) stop being in contact with him (with everything) 2) go to parties have fun( without him) 3) move on from him he is a jurk for sayin those stuff bout chu 4) (if i were u i would be sooo rude to his new gf) have fun 5) last but not least find a new guy n make sure u like him and don't just go out and find some random weird looking guy that has a "good personality" ( be attracted to ur new guy)!!!
5. Okay girlie... You may not like this answer, but I really think you should let him go. You were already sick of him in the first place, and he has proven himself to be an immature person. Mature people do not go around insulting their ex-girlfriends and spreading rumors, just because they got dumped. You are so much better than that. I think you were having second thoughts about dumping him because you got comfortable with him, and you were used to him. I think towards the end, you liked the idea of having someone there, more than you actually liked him as a person. Don't stay in relationships like that, if you want someone to follow you around and adore you, get a puppy. You shouldn't stay with someone because you're used to staying with them, you should stay with someone because every moment of it is exciting and interesting. I don't think he was the right person for you. His new girlfriend may be just a tactic he is using to try to make you jealous, or he could just be in it for sex. Either way, you shouldn't interfere with it. Let the trashy chunky girl have your sloppy seconds and move on! You shouldn't use desperate facebook shoutouts because it is disrespectful to the new girlfriend and it is giving him the attention he wants. You need to show them and everyone else that you have moved on, and make him wish he had never been born. WORK IT!
6. make one last status saying..whatever im over you im moving on..you wanted me in late febuary but didnt in beginning of march..you can make up all the rumors you want but im done..im gonna make myself happy and idc what u have to say about it.or sumthing similar..cuz you will get a response i can tell you that..if his girlfriend talks to you again..tell her to fuck off and let him say shit..he might not even know shes talking to you?and where are these rumors being spread?myspace cuz she could be spreading them herself..isnt there a time where she isnt around him?they dont live together right?if not then call him when u know she isnt there so u can talk to him and not her or have him talk a certain way cuz she is there..cuz if shes always around how do you know what he really wants to say..she needs to keep her big fat chunky butt out of it and let him talk for once